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Silence is Golden

October 14, 2015 — 1 Comment

Calvin Coolidge quote

Ralph Waldo Emerson quote

Simply Say Yes

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Bob Goff Say Yes quote

Let Go of the Past

September 2, 2015 — Leave a comment

Louise Smith quote

Bob Goff Ordinary People Quote

Mark Brown quote

Mean Girl Survival Guide

February 9, 2015 — 2 Comments

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Mean girls! If you’re female, the term probably brings back memories of all those girls who tormented you with their subtle and/or not-so-subtle cruelty.

Unfortunately, my daughters have had their share of mean girls since the beginning of Kindergarten. One daughter’s personality allows her to “let go” of the hurt quickly. If someone doesn’t like her, she has the ability to analyze the situation quickly to decide whether it’s a girl being mean or if it’s a true friend who has been hurt and needs care.

My other daughter is much more like her mom. We allow words to pierce our hearts and worry over what others think of us. We’ve had many conversations over the years about the mean girls in her life.

One night, I made a “Mean Girl Survival Guide” and gave it to her the next morning before school. It became a source of comfort for her as she gained a new view of the girls and the situations that caused her so much pain. By finding peace in the midst of pain, she robbed these girls of their power and the bullying began to lessen.

When I mentioned the “Guide” on my personal Facebook page, I was inundated with requests to share. So here is your personal copy of the “Mean Girl Survival Guide. Share it, print it, or save it for later. My prayer is that your girl (or even you) may find freedom through God’s grace.

Mean Girls Survival Guide

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To print, click “More” under “Share” and click “Print.”

© 2015 Connie Davis Johnson

I’m not a fan of resolutions.  As I think about the changes I would like to make in the coming year, I feel like a failure for not achieving those changes in the past year….again.  And beginning the year feeling like a failure is a sure-fire way for my resolutions to fizzle out…….again.

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Rather than making resolutions, I spend some time reflecting on the accomplishments of the past year and I encourage you to do the same.  Look through pictures or the calendar to aid in remembering all that was achieved in the past year.

Did you get the oil changed in the car?  Did you clean out a drawer or closet this past year or spring clean a certain % of the house?  What books did you read?  Did you do a bible study, pray daily, or do devotions?  Did you learn to take care of your body by staying properly hydrated drinking 8 glasses of water a day?  How did your family spend time together?  Did you participate in a canned food drive?

By contemplating on accomplishments made, you will realize the successfulness of the past year and be ready to build on those achievements this year.

Review the past year in the following areas and make goals in each area for this year:

Personal growth

How did you grow personally in this past year?

  • What books did you read?  Recreational reading is also important as we need time to relax and recharge.
  • Did you do a bible study/specific devotions/read the bible in a year/etc.?
  • Did you pray daily or most days of the week or month?
  • Did you enjoy any of your hobbies or do things you like during your free time?
  • Did you develop your strengths or weaknesses by taking a class, finding a mentor, seeing a counselor, or reading specific books?
  • Did you ever give more than take?

Health

Were any lifestyle changes made?

  • Did you drink more water?
  • Did you cut back on soda?
  • Did you limit sweets to once a week?
  • Did you only go out to eat only 3-4 times a month?
  • Did you learn to eat more fruits and vegetables?
  • Did you decrease your plate portions?
  • Did you find a few activities to love and do to stay active?

Family

What investments were made in your family?

  • Did you enjoy any family nights?
  • Did you plan and do any activities during the Summer or holidays/weekends?
  • Did your family go on vacation or spend any weekends away together?
  • Did your family do any mission or volunteer work together?
  • Did you study the bible as a family or one on one as parent/child?
  • Did you tell your family members you love them regularly?
  • Did you hug your child often?

Giving

How did you give of your time and money?

  • Did you volunteer at the local soup kitchen or with another organization?
  • Did you go on a mission trip (domestic or international)?
  • Did you donate unneeded items to a local mission?
  • Did you supply canned goods to local food bank?
  • Did you support a missionary/favorite cause/organization/family in need financially?
  • Did you make a meal (freezer or fresh) or provide a gift card for friends or family going through a difficult time?

Organize and clean

How did you take care of your house and property?

  • Did you clean out or organize any cabinets, drawers, or closets?
  • Did you clean out the garage?
  • Did you clean up or add anything new to the landscaping?
  • Did you clean out or organize toys?
  • Did you clean out any files?
  • Did you add pictures to any albums?
  • Did you do any car maintenance?

Finances

Were any positive changes made regarding your finances?

  • Did you pay off any credit cards?
  • Did you use coupons?
  • Did you make a budget?
  • Did you take advantage of sales rather than pay full price?
  • Did you save any money?
  • Did you eat at home rather than eat out?

This is not an all-inclusive list so please feel free to add your own questions or areas.

In order to realize success in these areas this year, white space will need to be created on the calendar.

How do you spend your time daily?  Can less be spent on social media or watching TV?  Can you travel less for work or cut overtime hours?  Is getting up earlier a possibility?  A shorter lunch may provide some time to perform a few tasks.  Are there any other areas that can be cut back to realize your goals this year?  Decide on priorities and fill in the calendar with those first.

Did you do all that is on this list and will you be able to carry out all you set out to do this year?  Probably not.  And that’s okay.  All growth and achievements are something to be celebrated no matter how small.

Even if you’ve never realized your success in the past, I urge you to recognize it now.

I would love to hear what you plan to accomplish this year!  Please share in the comments below.

© 2014 Connie Davis Johnson

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I knew the carnival had come to town even before I saw the rides.  Friends on Facebook announced it by posting comments about the influx of ex-cons and drug addicts with no teeth and filthy clothing.  I didn’t think too much about the comments and even laughed at a few.

When I took my kids to the carnival on opening night, I struck up a conversation with a woman carnie who wasn’t busy at the time.  She shared how she was a mom of three kids, one of which she delivered just four months earlier.

When asking if her kids were with her, she about burst into tears as she explained they were at home and she wouldn’t get to see them until carnival season ended 4 months later.  She didn’t feel the road was a good and stable place to raise kids so she left them with her parents during the busy carnival season.

While looking for a job, she had been rejected by corporations, gas stations, retail stores, restaurants, and on and on.  She was getting desperate as she worried how she would care for her children.  She then met some carnies who showed her love and acceptance and offered her a job.

She now found she was rejected by society as a whole because of the job she held.

As she opened her heart, shame filled my own.  The pain on her face was evident.  And I had added to her misery by participating (even silently) in the social media fodder and buying into the stereotype.

The fun we sometimes have at others expense is often greater than the concern for their heart.  Those “funny” comments hurt real people with genuine feelings.

Everyone has a story.  Everyone has needs.  Everyone needs love.

This woman was working hard to give her kids the best life possible on the limited means she had.  I felt for her as I watched her love on the other carnies’ kids who were traveling with the group, while missing her own so much.

I could relate to her because I had been rejected in different areas of my own life.

I’m sure you’ve also felt the sting of rejection.  When made to feel unwanted, unworthy, or unacceptable for one reason or another, it’s miserable.

So let’s no longer take part as others “tear down.”  Let’s counter that by “building up.”

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There are 2 simple ways to “build others up.”

First, we need to see everyone as God’s masterpiece.

People of all ages, races, social classes, well-educated, non-educated, agreeable, disagreeable, from all walks of life, each are made in God’s image.  Each has value and worth.

Second, we need to do something.

In Australia, there is a rocky cliff called, The Gap, that is a notorious suicide spot.  For nearly 50 years, Don Ritchie, who lived across the street, scanned the cliff each day.  If he saw anyone standing alone and too close to the edge, he hurried to their side.  He would give them a warm smile and ask if they would like to come in for a cup of tea.  He never counseled, advised, or pried.  He just offered a smile and an invitation.

Don is officially credited with saving 160 people but unofficially the number is closer to 600.  Many of the survivors said it was Don’s smile that made them want to live.

Don says, “Never be afraid to speak to those you feel are in need.  Always remember the power of the simple smile, a helping hand, a listening ear, and a kind word.  It’s pretty simple.”

What if we are the catalyst that helps someone feel accepted, loved, or cared for all because we were willing to engage them in conversation, offer a listening ear, or give a simple smile?

At the very least we will bring a boost to their day.  But we may just save a life in the process.

Who will you see, accept, value, and love today?

You may also like:

Feeling Bad About Yourself?

Should You be a “Yes” Parent?

My Kid Doesn’t Meet My Expectations

©2013 Connie Davis Johnson

 

 

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“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart..” ~ Jeremiah 1:5a

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.  ~ Psalm 139:13-14

Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.  ~ Psalm 139:16

“God created you with a longing to know you are significant, accepted and secure – and then He met that need through Jesus. You are LOVED with measureless grace and affection.”  ~ Renee Swope A Confident Heart 

“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” ~ Steve Furtick

See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!  ~ 1 John 3:1a

“The way we continually talk about our own inabilities is an insult to our Creator.” ~ Oswald Chambers

“Remember He is the artist and you are only the picture. You can’t see it. So quietly submit to be painted. i.e., keep fulfilling all the obvious duties of your station (you really know quite well enough what they are!), asking forgiveness for each failure and then leaving it alone. You are in the right way. Walk – don’t keep on looking at it.” ~ C. S. Lewis

What’s the price of a pet canary? Some loose change, right? And God cares what happens to it even more than you do. He pays even greater attention to you, down to the last detail—even numbering the hairs on your head! So don’t be intimidated by all this bully talk. You’re worth more than a million canaries. ~ Matthew 10:29-31

“Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.”  ~ Malcolm Forbes, American magazine publisher

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  ~ Jeremiah 29:11

“Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.” ~ Helen Keller

The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing. ~ Zephaniah 3:17

“All your efforts to win God’s affection are unnecessary. All your fears of losing his affection are needless.” ~ Max Lucado

For it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose. ~ Philippians 2:13

“Every artist was first an amateur!” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.  ~ 2 Corinthians 1:3-4

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. ~ Psalm 34:18

“Don’t let people’s compliments go to your head, and don’t let their criticisms go to your heart. The degree to which you do either of these things is the degree to which you’ll be ruled by what other people think of you.” ~ Lysa TerKeurst

What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?  He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?  ~ Romans 8:31-32

You may also like:

Are You Insignificant?

When to Heed or Disregard Criticism

Don’t Shut the Shades on Life

This post is part of the Whimsical Wednesday Link up

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and the Woman to Woman Word Filled Wednesday Link Up

©2013 Connie Davis Johnson